https://odb.org/MY/2023/03/03/for-the-sake-of-the-gospel
For people who are in a relationship, finding out that your partner is seeing someone else is devastating. It applies to both men and women. I used to think that men cheat more than women as polygamy used to be accepted as a societal norm. However, polygamous relationships were a necessary evil in the past, I think mainly because of economics as women had not yet entered the workforce in a big way. In fact, during ancient times, Israelites would marry their brother’s wife and take over the responsibility for his family when his brother dies (usually from battle). Widows had a difficult time fending for their families as they were not in the workforce during those times. Times have changed, and women are now financially independent. There are many single ladies who are fully able to raise families now. Thus, I think when it comes to infidelity in modern times, both men and women are susceptible and may fall into the trap.
As broken people living in a broken world, some say, perfection from everyone is at most illusionary or wishful thinking and at worse purely aspirational. However, if we had experienced betrayal before, it does not mean we can not love or be loved again. There will be others, and not everyone will be like our past partner. Not perfect, nevertheless, but not necessarily unfaithful. It is unfair to generalise. Not all men are looking for sex only, and not all women are looking to entrap. There are many others who are sincere and have pure intentions to build the future together.
Jesus is different. He first loved us while we were yet sinners. He died for our sins while we were wretched souls. He became a ransom for our souls and sacrificed His life on the cross that we may all have life and life eternal. Do not let our past failed relationships colour our perception towards Him. In fact, our past relationships should propel us to Him as He can make right our past. He can restore what the locusts had devoured. Our past mistakes, He can heal and reinstate us physically and emotionally, even as He liberates our soul and sets us onto a pathway to eternity. Look to Jesus, perhaps with Him in our lives, He may lead us to the person we deserve, which will truly love and cherish us for what and who we are. At the very least, He will give us peace and rest and help us be the person God always wanted us to be and achieve His plans and purposes for us, conceived before we were even formed in our mother’s womb.
Ronnie's Thoughts 