https://odb.org/2023/11/03/reflecting-the-light-of-the-son
Couples’ quarrels are common even after years of marriage. A lot of harsh words may be uttered in the heat of the moment. Fortunately, for most couples, they argue within the strong foundation of their marriage, which, because of their undying love for each other, is usually a safe harbour in the midst of stormy weather. Even then, it is still good practice to pause before we respond and remember we are the light of the world in Christ Jesus. How are we projecting Christ if harsh words always come out of our mouths as our words may be perceived as our real intentions? It is through our lips that the intentions of our hearts are known as much as we don’t mean most of what we say when angry. But Proverbs 18:21 says life and death are in the power of the tongue.
Pausing before responding is, however, crucial when it comes to relating with others outside of marriage and even family. Siblings have been known to cease speaking to one another for months and even years for hurts caused by words uttered in the heat of the moment. Arguments and querrels may have lasting consequences. At work, it could be a matter of career progression or even job survival. Being vocal helps us to be constructive to contribute ideas and thoughts, but we must choose the appropriate time and place. Some people are always condescending and haughty. Critical thought is necessary, but the forum and audience are equally important. There are places and times when we should only speak when asked.
The message today is to pause before we respond. Our reaction, if in anger, will not be our best in most cases. Emotional words can sometimes be like a runaway train destroying everything in its path. Pause before responding, especially in writing. Why put our emotions on record? We are the light of the world (Matthew 5:14). We illuminate the darkness around us. There is already too much sadness and misery in the world; let us not add on to that!
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