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A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger – Proverbs 15:1.
I think everyone is aware that we intentionally say all the wrong things in anger, harsh words that are calculated to hurt. Yet, we don’t actually mean what we say, especially to our loved ones. Unfortunately, the damage would have been done, and usually, it takes a long time for the emotional wounds to heal. That is why people advise that we shouldn’t make important decisions when angry. In fact, we shouldn’t also make major decisions when we are very happy and elated as both extremes in emotions do not bring the best out of us. Let things settle down first, then decide so that we do things rationally after praying about it, seeking God and considering all angles and views.
To avoid saying harsh things in anger, perhaps it’s best to walk sway from a heated confrontation or deescalate the situation by talking about something else or just apply Proverbs 15:1 by speaking gently. The idea is to not add oil to fire, and the justification is that words wrongly said would have far-reaching ramifications. So be a peacemaker, not a “batu api” (fire stone in Malay), meaning don’t be an inciter. If we could remain calm, we would be a gem indeed!
As we get older, we will also realise that anger increases our blood pressure unnecessarily and may lead to health complications like a stroke or cardiac arrest. So, being slow to anger is not only a virtue but is also healthy! We could avoid catastrophic consequences.
The message today is thus – be gentle in speech and slow to anger. That will go a long way in preserving relationships and lengthening our life span!
Ronnie's Thoughts 