https://odb.org/MY/2021/09/07/complete
While we can only be fully complete in Christ, I think we should not dismiss the notion that our better half completes us in the context of a marriage that is sanctified by God. Besides continuing the family line and thus the perpetuation of the human race, marriage brings together two distinct individuals to become one flesh before God (Genesis 2:24). In the union of marriage, Christians believe that our spouses are other children of God specially chosen by God to complement us – thus in the natural sense, to complete us. That is why marriage is for life, till death do us part or until the Lord returns.
I find this to be true in my own marriage. I’m more relaxed but my wife is more uptight. To those who are acquinted with the DISC analysis of personalities – my wife has a strong D, while I’m strong in I, S and C. I’m more of a relationship person, non-confrontational while she will speak her mind in anything that she sees to be wrong, especially to me! In the arrow analogy taught by Pastor Albert Kang, she’s more arrow head while I’m more arrow shaft and tail. That is why when our boys want something, they come to me first! Even in music, she plays the piano and I play the guitar and she sings harmony naturally while I am better at just singing the straight melody.
In a true Christian marriage sanctified by God however, as much as our spouse completes us in the natural, there is still that spiritual dimension and most of us believe in a triangle with Christ as the Lord of our lives and thus our marriage. The same way as Christ is the Lord of our family and home, He is the Lord of our marriage. Therefore, we fulfil the will of the Father in Christ but we are stronger in all that we do for Him as a couple. Two is better than one for if one falls, the other can lift him up (Ecclesiastes 4:9). But ultimately, Christ is the Head and we are His body.
If we are married or planning to marry one day, always put Christ as the Head but remember that our spouse is to complement us to make us a more complete person in Christ. There is no need to compete with him or her in the things we do to prove we are better as we will always be better together as a couple!
Ronnie's Thoughts 